This Man Is Dating Someone Even Though He’s Married. Sounds Disgusting, But I’m On His Side.

Jarrid Wilson is a husband, pastor, author, and blogger. And he has a confession that has everyone talking lately. You’ll see why below.

On Jarrid’s blog post titled, “I’m Dating Someone Even Thought I’m Married,” he writes:

On Jarrid’s blog post titled, “I’m Dating Someone Even Thought I’m Married,” he writes:

“I have a confession to make. I’m dating someone even though I’m married.

She’s an incredible girl. She’s beautiful, smart, cunning, strong, and has an immensely strong faith in God. I love to take her out to dinner, movies, local shows, and always tell her how beautiful she is. I can’t remember the last time I was mad at her for longer than five minutes, and her smile always seems to brighten up my day no matter the circumstances.

Sometimes she will visit me at work unannounced, make me an incredible lunch, or even surprise me with something she personally baked. I can’t believe how lucky I am to be dating someone even though I am married. I encourage you to try it and see what it can do for your life.

Oh! Did I mention the woman I am dating is my wife? What did you expect?

Just because you’re married, doesn’t mean your dating life should end.

I need to continue to date my wife even after I marry her. Pursuing my wife shouldn’t stop just because we both said, “I do.” Way too many times do I see relationships stop growing because people stop taking the initiative to pursue one another.

Dating is a time where you get to learn about someone in a special and unique way. Why would you want that to ever stop? It shouldn’t. Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop just because the years have passed. Wake up each day and pursue your spouse as if you are still on your first few dates. You will see a drastic change for the better in your relationship.

When it comes to any relationship, communication and the action of constant pursuit is key. Nobody wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to pursue them whole-heartedly.

I encourage you to date your spouse, pursue them whole-heartedly, and understand that dating shouldn’t end just because you said, “I do.”

written by: Jarrid Wilson

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You Have It In You To Take On The Challenge

ou have it in you to take on the challenge. What is that challenge? It is the thing that you have been putting off for years. The thing you fear. The thing that keeps you stating I need to have something before I can start. Take on that challenge.

I will share a story with you of a time when I thought I had to cross certain stages before reaching the top of the mountain. In my late 20s I took on the sport of snow skiing. I wanted to make sure I was prepared for this adventure so I enrolled in ski school and attended weekly lessons. I found myself catching onto this sport quickly with minimal occasions of falling; however, I was still on the bunny hill. The bunny hill is the area for beginners; it was a flat surface of snow. I was comfortable on the bunny hill and pleased with what I had accomplished. While there were larger more challenging mountains around me I felt more time was needed on the bunny hill to perfect my skill of skiing.

Then one weekend when I was in the company of some expert skiers while still on the bunny hill. My friend observed and stated, "You seem to be picking this up quickly come with us over to this other area to ski". I followed my friend trusting that they knew I was a beginner and would not guide me to something out of my element of skill. We got on a chair lift that seemed never ending. As we were going higher I noticed this was not a bunny hill nor was it an intermediate slope.

Once we reached the top I discovered it was one of the most challenging black diamond slopes. I stated to my friend, "What have you done I am not yet at the level to ski this black diamond, I have yet to ski the intermediate slope". My friend replied, "Yes you are I have observed your skill". I immediately started to look around for a less challenging slope and there was none.

Several emotions ran through my mind at that moment.

• The first emotion was anger: I asked myself why my friend would take me to this black diamond slope knowing I was just a beginner.
• The second emotion was fear: I thought about taking my skis off and walking down the slope; however, that was impossible due to it was a vertical drop down and walking was not an option.
• The third emotion was taking the challenge: I had no other way of getting down but to attempt to ski down.

While my friend offered encouraging words I was not yet convinced. I stood at the top of the mountain looking out over the horizon and going over in my mind a strategy of how to tackle this venture. After making sure my ski boots were securely attached to my skis I took on the challenge and proceeded down the black diamond slope with great speed and concentration.

Finally I reached the point of leveled ground and to my surprise I did not fall. Once I grasped the moment of relief I looked at that black diamond slope and never ventured back to the bunny hill again.

I thank my friend for seeing something in me that needed to go higher. What black diamond mountain are you avoiding? You have it in you to take the challenge. It is your time. Go for it!

Harmony In Motion is a interpersonal skills team building development company. We provide teams and individuals with the knowledge to work together in harmony by improving their interpersonal relationships

written by:Terri Harmon Ph.D.

I'll Fix That Later

About two hours ago, my hubby moved our Christmas Poinsettia because it was blocking his view of our 60inch television . But, the man large TV syndrome is another topic and another story. He crammed the Poinsettia under the second shelf of our coffee table. Of course you know that didn't work very well, plant three feet high, space between shelves two feet.

My poor plant was squashed and looking rather sad by this time. But, the part that really got to me was watching the leaves fall off on the floor and the dirt sprinkled about the leaves on my previously clean floor. If you have ever seen dried out Poinsettia leaves you know what I'm talking about.

You guessed it he looks over at me and says "I'll fix that later." Yes, it has been two hours and "later" still hasn't arrived. How many times have we all said this and later never seems to come. We then end up with so many "I'll fix that later" jobs that we end up with a cluttered mess and a big job on our hands.

I don't know about you but, I live by the old adage taught to me by a former boss. I was feeling overhelmed one day and my boss could see my tense body language, not to mention the stressed look on my face. Elizabeth asked me "Do you know how to eat an elephant?" I smiled and simply replied "No." Her answer "One bite at a time."

So it became "one bite at a time" and not "I'll fix that later" for me. This has been one of the keys to keeping my home clean, organized and clutter free.

I don't believe you can or should change others, only yourself. That is not to say you can't change how you deal with them, but you can't change them. The issue was not a discussion worth having in my opinion, remember pick your battles, save it for the big stuff. My beloved hubby of twenty-five years is not about to change and live by my adage. I accept it, just as he accepts I am not going to change and live by his adage. The art of the compromise!

You can still reach your organizing, decluttering and cleaning goals. I promise I did in a house with five children, two dogs and one husband. Now if you will excuse me, I am off to clean my floor.

written by:Karen M Murdock

5 New Year Resolutions For Singles

Going into a New Year and you are single. It's not the worst thing that could happen. Instead of making resolutions you won't stick to, try these easy resolutions that can make your year as a single a whole lot better.

1. Out with the Old and in with the New. This does just a " New Year" phrase, but can be a statement in regards to your relationships. If a person is not is not in your present, then there is a reason for that. Stop trying to figure out why they are not there, stop trying to bring the bad relationship karma with you into future relationships, and stop trying to figure out what you did wrong. Because whatever the answer to those questions may be, it does not matter. All that matters is the present and moving froward. So if you are stuck on past people or relationships, do not let that drama come with you into the new year. Let it go.

2. Make a resolution that makes you better. You can always make a resolution not to be single. But look at the reasons that are keeping you from a relationship. Look at making a resolutions that makes you a better and make you feel more confident. This could be working out, taking classes, or taking better care of your health. A better feeling you, means that your confidence level will soar through the roof, and people around you will notice. And you never know, being a better you, may attract a better person.

3. Get out, get up, and go somewhere. If you are constantly visiting the same bars, clubs, and places. And your still single. Then guess what, it may be time for a change. If the places that you were going to didn't work out so well, why not step out of your comfort zone and try something or somewhere different. One thing that borders on the side of being uncool, is when you walk in the bar and everyone knows your name. They know what you are going to order, they know all about your personal business, and because you frequent there so much the bar tender gave you a christmas for the holidays. Its a little lame. Try a little change os scenery

3. Dress up. Dressing up can be an underestimated thing. I dare you to go outside with no make up on, sweats, and looking like the hot mess express and see how much attention you get. Then I dare you to look your finest meaning make up, perfume, and putting some thought into your appearance. It is not just about other people that will notice you because of your appearance. But looking your best also makes you feel good about yourself. And when you feel good about yourself. Other people take notice as well.

4. Don't Worry be Happy. If you are going into the new year single. Don't fret and get all upset and depressed about it. Enjoy your life anyway. Weather you are having a dinner for one or two, just be joyful. If you are a depressed single, then what makes you think that someone else is magically going to make you happy. Other people do not make you happy. You make yourself happy, and allow the other person to add on to your awesome package of happiness. Often times, when people see you are happy on your own, they are more open to being in a relationships with you, because they assume that you are not going to be Debbie Downer the whole time.

So if you are going into the new year single. Fret not. It is not the end of the world. Just enjoy your life, and your New Year resolution should be to make your life better than it was last year. Weather you are with someone or not.

written by:Sophia reed

5 Quick Tips to Bless Your Life Through the Power of Forgiveness

#1 - Make it unnecessary

Where there is no offence taken, the need for forgiveness would not arise. So the foremost strategy for avoiding the stress of having to forgive is to make ourselves inaccessible to hurt. We can do this by being more mindful of our words and actions - choosing to desist from speaking or acting if we sense that such would demean ourselves or hurt others. We also need to guard against taking ourselves too seriously, though, so as not to open ourselves wide to many real and imagined hurts.

#2 - Take a humorous view.

A favorite teacher often told me, "Don't be annoyed - be amused!" Taking a humorous view of an otherwise exasperating situation often defuses tensions and may provide the added benefit of allowing you to have an insight into the most appropriate response to make.

This verse from Shakespeare's "As You Like It" has many a time assisted me to see the funny picture:

"All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely players:

They have their exits and their entrances;

And one man in his time plays many parts... "

Needless to say, if you succeed in finding amusement in a situation you'll be more willing to forgive all parties involved, if at all such is still needed.

#3 - Maintain your peace

You may not be able to determine what other people do, but you can decide how you would react. You can simply refuse to be offended. Just reword the famous quote attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt, former American First Lady: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" to read "No one can make you feel hurt without your consent" It boils down to the same formula, really - just let it go.

St Paul expressed a similar idea thus, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." - Romans 12:18

While all the forgoing strategies have been aimed at avoiding having to task our power of forgiveness, the next two would aim at transmuting feelings of hurt into forgiveness.

#4 - Out of evil comes good

You can choose to see the good that has come out of what was directed at you with evil intent. Did they make you toil - well they may have made your tougher thereby; did they expose you to ridicule - well, maybe they've succeeded in strengthening your character. Life has a way of balancing misfortunes with benefits. The old saying goes "It's an ill wind that blows no one any good."

Said Napoleon Hill, "Every adversity, every failure, and every heartache, carries with it the Seed of an equivalent or greater Benefit".

Painful though it may be, try to see the good that has come out of the evil intentions of others and move on. Realize that the important thing is what the experience has made of you. Above all, know that you can only radiate the splendour that the experience has bestowed on you when you wash off the bitterness with the balm of forgiveness.

#5 - Take it as redemptive

Choose not to see the scenarios of your life as concluded chapters. Exercise your imagination - and hope - to see a happy ending to each episode that hurt you deeply. It is said that what was hard to bear often turns out sweet to recount. Know too that those who hurt you the most may yet see the wrongness of their acts and seek to make amends.

But then, even if the perpetrators never come to make amends, Nature, through her spiritual laws of compensation, does so anyway. For as you choose to forgive, so would you be forgiven and granted the privileges of divine grace.

In the words of the Rev. (Dr). Martin Luther King Jr:

"My personal trials have also taught me the value of unmerited suffering. As my sufferings mounted I soon realized that there were two ways that I could respond to my situation: either to react with bitterness or seek to transform the suffering into a creative force. I decided to follow the latter course. Recognizing the necessity for suffering I have tried to make of it a virtue. If only to save myself from bitterness, I have attempted to see my personal ordeals as an opportunity to transform myself and heal the people involved in the tragic situation which now obtains. I have lived these last few years with the conviction that unearned suffering is redemptive... "

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written by:John D'Silva